Singapore Expats

hi, i need serious help.
my wife and i are still living in the same house but we haven't been speaking to each other or anything for a long time. we have two children, a 3 year old boy and a 5 year old girl.
i've been thinking about getting a divorce for some time. the feeling is mutual. she practically hates me.
i've met someone and now i dont know what to do.
i know that my wife has another guy as well.we both know.

can i know what are the costs involved? the lawyer fees etc.
and whether i can apply for a divorce.

i'd seriously appreciate any reply. thanks.

my friend just filed for a divorce and the legal fees is less than 2k.think it have to depend on how complex your case is.

seems more and more divorce case nowadys..

a close fren of mine facing the same prob.. but diff senario.
as a close fren i felt very frustrated and very emotional!!

his wife actually filed the case.. claiming that they cant get along.. i read the drafted document which just stated in very simple 2 sentences reason.. (I cant remember actually the words) but the meaning is that she cant get along and cant endure the husband's behaviour, so cant be together anymore!

I pitty my fren.. he is not highly educated and couldnt understand the sentences.. so he consulted us. his wife was demanding for this and that.. like monthly $1 maintenance fee, children, withdrawing her CPF contribution (my fren need to pay her back for what she has contributed on CPF for housing).

Guess what? that boils me up!! the actual fact is that the wife is having an affair outside! an affair for atleast 4 years!! is only lately that my fren found out.. and confronted them. the wife admitted it.

but in terms of legal aspect, she is claiming otherwise reason as that she cant get along!! do u think its fair?? trying to claim parts on the HDB, children and other sturf? she is actually in the wrong!! and if my fren sign the docu.. means my fren take all the responsibilty even he has not commited any wrong!!

My fren is consider low income worker. ., he just worrys for the legal fees if he is to hire a lawyer.. anyway the law here protects women.. if my fren is to sign on the dotted! there gone not oni his marriage (tho not worth to retain) but also his $$$!!, children, etc!!

infact i am helping him to look for any legal advise which is within his ability..

I wanted to help him.. any advise here please?

appreciated.

Divorce should be the last thing to do after both have tried all ways to save the marriage. Have you not remember your vows on your wedding day? Especially when children are involved. What will they grow up to be lacking one side of their parents.

If you think your spouse is seeing someone. Why don't you ask yourself, what is the reason for them to do so.. is it you?

Please try and save the children future..

divorce shld be the last thing

think of the children

Hi Confused,

Both of you are having options to have another. Think about your
children and their future. Life long they will suffer due to both of your
decision on divorce. Instead of thinking about your own life if both
of you sit and discuss you can start a new life for you and your children.
Both of you must come out of your Ego. Each should prepare to sacrifice
your life for your family. Then all the problems will vanish .
Instead of spending to lawer spend for your family happy life.

Just think about it.

These may help:

http://www.heritage.org/Research/featur ... Family.cfm

http://www.divorceresourcecenter.com/un ... rriage.htm

http://www.dentalplans.com/articles/3183/

http://marriage.rutgers.edu/Publication ... yths.htm#3

http://familyministries.gc.adventist.or ... legacy.htm

For you info, I have mixed opinions. My parents are divorced but did so after I left home. For info purposes I got my 1st divorce at the same time as they got their divorce. (1973). They both remarried and are now both widow(er)s but had excellent 2nd marriages (one with stepchildren) to also divorced spouses. I have been married 3 times but have only had children during my third marriage (here in Singapore - married 23 years and still going strong). Useless trivial data but something to think about as well based on this thread. (too much info but maybe not enough for some).

sms

sundaymorningstaple wrote:These may help:

http://www.heritage.org/Research/featur ... Family.cfm

http://www.divorceresourcecenter.com/un ... rriage.htm

http://www.dentalplans.com/articles/3183/

http://marriage.rutgers.edu/Publication ... yths.htm#3

http://familyministries.gc.adventist.or ... legacy.htm

For you info, I have mixed opinions. My parents are divorced but did so after I left home. For info purposes I got my 1st divorce at the same time as they got their divorce. (1973). They both remarried and are now both widow(er)s but had excellent 2nd marriages (one with stepchildren) to also divorced spouses. I have been married 3 times but have only had children during my third marriage (here in Singapore - married 23 years and still going strong). Useless trivial data but something to think about as well based on this thread. (too much info but maybe not enough for some).

sms

Seems to me Divorce is a common culture in your family...Hope your children don't follow that culture....

Kash wrote:Seems to me Divorce is a common culture in your family...Hope your children don't follow that culture....

Seems intellect is not found in your family, is it?

Grim Reaper wrote:

Kash wrote:Seems to me Divorce is a common culture in your family...Hope your children don't follow that culture....

Seems intellect is not found in your family, is it?

What is that supposed to mean??? I guess you must be his friend....coming to his aid..chill out man!!!

Kash wrote: What is that supposed to mean??? I guess you must be his friend....coming to his aid..chill out man!!!

Actually, that couldn't be further from the truth most of the time!

GR, I didn't bother to answer because I just considered the source. Decided it would have been wasted energy. Sometimes people are just born dipshits and can't help it.