I certainly don't want to move to a country where my family is treated rudely and poorly on a daily basis. On the other hand, I CAN see why locals aren't interested in interacting with expats--- the whole here today, gone tomorrow thing that jpatokal mentioned. Maybe you need to try to put yourself in their (the locals) shoes, maybe try to truly understand why they are being rude to you. If people are rude, just come back with courtesy! You never know, it might rub off!
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Have been in 'the locals' shoes many times in area's where I have lived for longer periods of time and I do understand what you are saying....... and I agree 'here today / gone tomorrow".
but my original comment on where to live still stands:
So before signing up be aware of WHERE you are living as you will have to be there for at least 2 years (as per lease!).
I was told nearly 12 mths back by an expat that lives here that we would be best to live nearby all the others, but I did not listen thinking along the lines that if I wanted to be close to the English/Australians/Americans etc then I may as well stay home....
If you live around Orchard Rd or anywhere closer into the city area is by far much better for you as a family. There are plenty of expats close by and your wife can get to meet people very quickly.....this will be important. We live in a
condo with over 300 apartments and only 3 have Westerners, up until recently there were 4 but one suffered severe depression and had to return to the US.
We do not and cannot afford to have a car so we have to rely on public transport which really is the best in the world, so quick, cheap and convenient......even if it is overcrowded at times!!!
You are lucky to be able to have a co car...... that is an extra bonus for you, this will allow you to get out and about at weekends too. At home we had two cars - and all the freedom that gives you - so it was a shock to the system to suddenly not have any at all...... but you do get used to it IF you are close to the MRT of Bus terminal. Which like I said is quick, cheap and convenient!
So, yes, it is important (more so as a family) to be aware of where you are going to live.
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I don't know if we will be moving to Singapore yet--- we are still evaluating everything. My job looks to be challenging and enjoyable. Pay looks to be good-- but one of the things that is most enticing to us (and scaring us also!) is the adventure. I have a wife and 18 month old. Just found out we are pregnant again also! We are caucaisians living in TX, and we love the idea of rasing our kids in more of a "melting pot" type of atmosphere.
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BIG decisions for you and your family ...... as it was for us and others too. If your job is challenging and enjoyable then that is great, for you and the family, if the pay is good that is a bonus and even better.
If your wife is pregnant I believe that the hospitals etc here are excellent. Not being in that situation I have no idea, can only go by what others have told me and one of the women (from Texas) recently gave birth and was more than happy with the care she was given. Though she is returning home next month as it is getting too expensive here (rent wise) for them as a family unit.
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I DO want to make sure that my wife and kids can get around and enjoy the new experience as much as possible (during the day while I am at work), and I certainly expect they will run into rude people at some point along the way.
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It IS a great experience for anyone to live elsewhere at sometime during their life....... this is probably my 11th big move by now!
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Singapore seems like a wonderful place, and I'd love to hear some about any "good" experieces you've had (I'm sure there's some!!!!)[/quote]
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There are always good points and experiences in everyday...... I call them "my encounters" and I record each and everyone of them so when I have a 'bad hair day' I go back and read them. (my worst bad hair day was when I recently lost my hair due to chemo!!!)
Lots of people will give you advice regarding the move and you can take it or leave it....... but if you gather ALL the knowledge - good or bad - then you can weigh it all up and make your own decisions as a family. For you, you have to know that you are going to enjoy the challenge of a new job which will give you the global experience, but it still is a joint decision.
what ever you decide - This life is not a rehearsal for the next one. Enjoy it NOW !!!
Leone