I write this with a renewed interest in my profession and my own achievements in my fitness milestone. I don't profess to know all the answers, however many revelation has struck me like little bouts of epiphanies.
I remember myself, 6 months ago, always sticking to what i think was right and always a straight shooter and will not flinch or budge a bit. Then as i journeyed along and learn new things and interacting with many people/clients/forumers and learning of their past experience, suddenly i felt a need to reinvent myself.
Which brings me to my first point, there are no absolutes, you are never right always and there is no shame in admitting that you've been wrong.
I've made alot of training mistakes and goal setting expectation that sometimes i feel i'm too pressurized by my own ambition that i implode under my own weight.
I set numbers that i cannot reach; that only sounded nice on paper but hardly ever achievable, tried to chase after too many goals that i was running around in circles - but honestly i believed at that point of time it was achievable, honestly!
Which brings me to the second point, its good to make mistakes and over think things and then fail and then realize the mistakes that you've done.
I've thought it through and i feel lucky i was over ambitious rather than under. Its always easier to tame a over zealous horse than to try to push a lazy one to work. I'm not saying that i'm not lazy at times but at least i tried and failed and learned something.
My client today was speaking to my other client regarding training, she said something that suddenly zapped a bolt of renewed confidence - "As long as you try again, and keep at it, just don't give up. Louis tells me this all the time."
I think i said it, but i honestly forgotten when i did. I felt good, and somehow it felt like my philosophy - "Never stop trying even if you failed", has been ingrained in my clients unconsciously.
Which brings me to another point of this post, re-evaluate - contemplate - consolidate on your success, failures and things you've learned so far.
I started out without a single clue what fitness was, i read, tried everything and learned slowly. I re-evaluated my program when i didn't see results, i contemplated in finessing what i was doing and i consolidate on what really worked well for me.
When i was thinking about this things, Mike Boyle's lecture in Functional Strength Coach 1, suddenly popped in my head, I remembered he said something like this - "Are you progressing or regressing."
Those words never left my head and I'm lucky again to be exposed to such a brilliant surrogate mentor even if its through a DVD. It helped shaped most of my career as of now and much success that I've gain with the progress of my clients.
So putting everything in perspective, I've thought of a fool proof plan to actually get things done - Smart goal setting and managing self expectation.
- Who are you?
- What is your goal?
1. Who are you? - Are you a full time athlete or a recreational gym rat?
Most times we are so indulge in our goals that we leave out the foresight of what is really important in our lives - our families, our wives and our friends who have been with us in happy and sad times.
The last thing you want to do is to sacrifice time spent with them because you are too hardcore for their everyday lives and expectation.
Seriously, we have a life - live it. Its too short to be fussing that they eat bad, don't exercise and don't understand what you are trying to achieve.
Spending time doesn't mean eating crap, eating out doesn't mean missing a gym session, we are free to make choices and with that empowerment we can still eat clean, get a work out down and have a life! Yes, a life finally...
We can plan before hand and get things done, make appropriate choice when eating out, its not to hard; that is what the brain is for.
If you say its too hard because you have a competition coming up, your job is a pro athlete then i'd fully understand.
2. What is your goal? - The fundamental reason for your existence in the gym, if not stay home and don't waste your time.
Goal setting is great, putting numbers to it is better but sometimes LIFE, yes its a variable gets in the way. Most gym rats love absolutes and tangible differences, which is great if you are lifting, eating and sleeping iron everyday, 24/7.
Goals are great but putting sizable numbers is extremely hard and have comes to acknowledge over time. We have to acknowledge that its a journey, we will never have the perfect program and even more so without a coach with experience, so with that missing part, we're putting a questionable end to our goals already, that is unless you have 20 years of lifting experience working with top coaches but sadly most of us don't have such privileges.
So what is the most effective way to go about doing this goal setting?
1. Set a time frame with an absolute date.
2. Go Heavy, Go Hard, Go Home.
1. Set a time frame with an absolute date -
The best solution would be training for a time period of 8 weeks.
8 weeks is a sizable amount of time to evaluate your program/diet design, after 8 weeks you can contemplate to tweak it and then start over consolidating what works and didn't work.
Keep a log, record down everything for this 8 weeks and review, simple as pie.
2. Go Heavy, Go Hard, Go Home -
Set 1 goal within the 8 weeks, do whatever you can to achieve your goal. Explore supplements, try a different diet, experiment with whatever you want just to achieve your goals but don't cheat yourself. Make mistakes, make lots of them...just don't injure yourself.
The trick is to not set an absolute number to disappoint yourself, for 8 weeks you'll try every and any way to reach what you think is an improvement and see how far you can progress.
Compare that to your previous 8 weeks stats and review, if you succeed ask yourself why and build on it, if you fail - tough luck; but don't give up, try it again till you get something right and then move on to another goal.
The new year beckons, new training resolutions made, so whats your goal? I've learnt something, have you?
With this I leave you with this favorite anecdotal advice on life/training and everything else which Mike Boyle has brought up -
Quote:
A philosophy professor stood before his class and had some items in front of him.
When the class began, wordlessly he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with rocks, rocks about 2" in diameter.
He then asked the students if the jar was full? They agreed that it was.
So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles, of course, rolled into the open areas between the rocks.
He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.
The professor picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else.
He then asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with an unanimous - yes.
The professor then produced two cans of beer from under the table and proceeded to pour their entire contents into the jar - effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.
"Now," said the professor, as the laughter subsided, "I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The rocks are the important things - your family, your partner, your health, and your children - Things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.
The pebbles are the other things that matter, like your job, your house, and your car.
The sand is everything else. The small stuff."
"If you put the sand into the jar first," he continued, "there is no room for the pebbles or the rocks. The same goes for your life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your partner out dancing. There will always be time to go to work, give a dinner party and fix the disposal.
"Take care of the rocks first, the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand."
One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the beer represented.
The professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of beers."
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