Singapore Expats

hi..
i am just new here... just want to ask for advice....
need advice badly..
I am not a singaporean but just get married to a singaporean chinese...
we just get married this month and it was happen very fast.... the reason?

because he want me to stay here in singapore because i am a foreigner.. at first i thought really he want me to stay and now
he want to file a divorse.....

the reason??
he say he realised that he really not ready yet....
but if that is the reason really i can understand.. but got more reason..
and its because he still love his ex-gf.... and he admit it...
until now they communicate each other.. he dont know that i know because i pretend i dont see nothing... because i love him so much and i dont like to leave him......but now


will i still carry on? or just agree with the divorse???

If it were me I would go ahead with the divorce, if he is not in love with you and you are with him you are just going to get more hurt. It will hurt alot now but be so much more painful down the track.. There are plenty of fish in the sea and you want a good catch.!!! good luck...

thanks for your advice....

ya you are right... but until now i dont know how will i start again without
haiz.................



btw thaks again

After marrying him are you entitled to Singapore citizenship? I suspect there must be some sort of time frame.

Get a good divorce lawyer and find out details on your status in Singapore, and then take him to the cleaners?

QRM wrote:After marrying him are you entitled to Singapore citizenship? I suspect there must be some sort of time frame.

Get a good divorce lawyer and find out details on your status in Singapore, and then take him to the cleaners?

Considering that she has been married for one month, I sincerely doubt so. Nonetheless, it would be best to check with a lawyer.

jon0lim wrote:

QRM wrote:After marrying him are you entitled to Singapore citizenship? I suspect there must be some sort of time frame.

Get a good divorce lawyer and find out details on your status in Singapore, and then take him to the cleaners?

Considering that she has been married for one month, I sincerely doubt so. Nonetheless, it would be best to check with a lawyer.

I doubt it???? based upon what ??? Clearly never been divorced eh.

WHen in doubt ...shut up ...it helps ....trust me

i am not entitled to be citezen here after we get married..
the ICA will decide if they will allow me....

but i am not interested if i will become citezen here or not all i want when we get married or before we get married is to stay with him

but now i think all gone.....

they say we cannot divorse if less than 3years... am i right??/
but he still want to do it and he want me to be the one to
file the divorse because he say it will more than easy

too much right? like killing my own self....

Of course its all gone, not that I am mean or anything but what kind of world have you been living in where everything is like Disneyland, Hello wake up and smell the coffee!!

Don't beleive a word of your husband, and dont sign anything.

Go get a lawyer who can advise you properly and get your husband to pay for it.

You can't get a divorce till you've been married for three years regardless of the situation, so he can't do anything for a while yet.

Then you have to be able to blame one person - he will need to prove you are impossible to live with. There is no "I just don't love you anymore" here.

And by that time, you will definitely be entitled to money from him, including monthly maintenance if he has been financially supporting you. Normally I don't advocate this kind of thing, but in this case...

He may decide he'd like to see a counsellor and discuss his issues with you once he realises he can't just walk off like that.

thanks foa all your concerns really help me alot

now i am starting to move...
and now i think can make it.. maybe i was tired of maing him stay with me
which is really impossible for the two of us..

yes you are right we cannot get divorce if haven yrs yet....
thaks again....

zien wrote:thanks foa all your concerns really help me alot

now i am starting to move...
and now i think can make it.. maybe i was tired of maing him stay with me
which is really impossible for the two of us..

yes you are right we cannot get divorce if haven yrs yet....
thaks again....

true!

zien wrote:hi..
i am just new here... just want to ask for advice....
need advice badly..
I am not a singaporean but just get married to a singaporean chinese...
we just get married this month and it was happen very fast.... the reason?

because he want me to stay here in singapore because i am a foreigner.. at first i thought really he want me to stay and now
he want to file a divorse.....

the reason??
he say he realised that he really not ready yet....
but if that is the reason really i can understand.. but got more reason..
and its because he still love his ex-gf.... and he admit it...
until now they communicate each other.. he dont know that i know because i pretend i dont see nothing... because i love him so much and i dont like to leave him......but now


will i still carry on? or just agree with the divorse???

As per ALL divorce cases worldwide, seek legal advice.

married and divorce are really happen. think it again what you should do. for you better future

pragmatically, you should try to get divorced when the opportunity comes.

you don't want to try to think of divorcing when he (accidentally or otherwise) give you a child or else, things would be much more difficult.

pls ask him to file a divorce instead of you if the situation does not improve. if this involves a third party, i guess you can sue him right?