Singapore Expats

Hi all,

As we become more global, we tend to get out of our socio-racial shells and venture into relationships with partners who do not belong to our community. And if marriage ensues that's when problems seem to begin! I can tel this from firts-hand experiences. Would there be people with similar experiences out there? Anyone who has/is married to a Caucasian or is dating one care to comment on this issue? I am looking at a network of friendship for people in such situations. You can drop me a note at [email protected]

Why would we need a "network" of friendship? Obviously we interact better than most as we have already crossed racial and cultural boundaries by the very act of having a partner not of our same community.

I'm not too sure what you're on about. I've been in a mixed marriage for over 25 years and don't see any problems at all. And you? From your posts, I'd say your problem might be due to your inflexibility as you are a teetotaler and non-smoking vegan. You seem to be limiting yourself in your interactions with others rather than there being an inherent problem. It seems it's one of your own doing. (Oh, my wife isn't a vegan, but she is a teetotaler and non-smoker. I used to do both until 4 years ago - didn't hurt us).

Edited due to really crappy typing!

veggie72 wrote:who do not belong to our community.

Scary... there are people who still think or at least see nothing wrong with saying it like that.

Some people have not learned anything from the brown shirts saga.

It would appear that OP is local and I'm guessing possibly a Hindu. OP may not have studied European History specifically with a slant on Europe (seems many haven't here hence the rather ignorant flaunting of the Swastika on T's and so forth. When asked, they don't even know what the Swastika or Iron Cross stood for in Modern History. (The Buddhist Swastika sits flat and not on it's corners and is generally red).

So much for having intelligent conversations.....

veggie72 wrote:Hi all,

As we become more global, we tend to get out of our socio-racial shells and venture into relationships with partners who do not belong to our community. And if marriage ensues that's when problems seem to begin! I can tel this from firts-hand experiences. Would there be people with similar experiences out there? Anyone who has/is married to a Caucasian or is dating one care to comment on this issue? I am looking at a network of friendship for people in such situations. You can drop me a note at [email protected]

Oh so so bitter a pill is reality ....Please don't blame interracial relationships for your problems .. If you are not too smart, you should stick to basics .. leave the advanced stuff for smarter experienced people. Like the wise old sms .. I sometimes wish i was not so perceptive to pick up on people's insecurities this easily (wise old men inclusive).

I see preparation-H has crawled out from under his rock again. It's a shame he's not half and perceptive as he thinks he is.

sundaymorningstaple wrote:I see preparation-H has crawled out from under his rock again. It's a shame he's not half and perceptive as he thinks he is.

If you managed to type a single sentence without sounding like a drunk .. I might actually seriously consider what you are saying ..

I am always receptive to INTELLIGENT criticism like "you say X, but really it is Y .. so you are not perceptive because you mistook Y for X". Instead all you have ever managed to utter are .. "you are not smart ... you are silly .. you are not as good as you think you are .. I am a genius ..all because I say so "... very reminiscent of toddlers not of self-proclaimed wise old men. Could senility be rearing its ugly head?