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I met this guy through an event and I sort of like him. So I sent him an sms saying if there is possibility for us to know each other a bit further, mabye we can meet up again. And he says "sure certainly,I'd like that."
I'm really really not good at this coz I never been a character to approach a guy proactively, but I feel he worths me doing so and I really want to explore the possibility of going out with him. After the last sms exchange there is no action been taken from either side so far, I don't know if he got what I mean and what I should do next. Based on his reply, anyone take a guess what's been on his mind? Shall I ask him out over a coffee or dinner immediately? Btw, I gave my instant messenger ID to him y'day(I don't have his) but so far he hasn't added me yet...I'm feeling a bit frustrated now..

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this is what i'd do...

sry if this not the right place to post but don't know where else to cry for help..I sent him a msg but he simply didn't reply...it's killing to drag on while waiting for him to come back. Is this a sign that I should stop dreaming abt anything?

three strikes, and he's out

bluesky2009 wrote:I met this guy through an event and I sort of like him. So I sent him an sms saying if there is possibility for us to know each other a bit further, mabye we can meet up again. And he says "sure certainly,I'd like that."
I'm really really not good at this coz I never been a character to approach a guy proactively, but I feel he worths me doing so and I really want to explore the possibility of going out with him. After the last sms exchange there is no action been taken from either side so far, I don't know if he got what I mean and what I should do next. Based on his reply, anyone take a guess what's been on his mind? Shall I ask him out over a coffee or dinner immediately? Btw, I gave my instant messenger ID to him y'day(I don't have his) but so far he hasn't added me yet...I'm feeling a bit frustrated now..

Hi Bluesky,
nobody can give you any advice on what you should do with your personal life. It's your own and you need to find a way that best reconciles what you want and what you are with what you need to do to get it. Posting on a forum will only get your replies from people who think you're playing baseball.
I would suggest you take your time to think where exactly you want this to go and how you want to do it. Starting relationships can be a lot of guesswork coupled with a lot of rationalizing. And only you can do it for yourself. Good luck.

what's wrong with baseball?

If he isnt asking for a date after you met him? i believe hes not interested..you might want to explore other fishes in the sea.

hey guys, thx for the advices/links. I collected enough courage to ask him out last Sun but he asked to postpone due to conflicting schedule. I guess that's it, he might be seeing some else but not yet fixed any long term relationship, hence I was sort of being hanged over there. break my head if I try to figure out why he's not prone to go out with me out of thousands possibilties. I guess I have to take a pause from here and stop coming up with reasons that he is not replying/accepting me which are not critical to defend myself..Yea, maybe he's just not that into me...

see bluesky, that's three strikes already. it's all right to move on now; his loss, not yours.

bummer..
thx mauvecloud, it hurts thou

short-term ouch better than long-term agony (at least that's what i read. haha booksmart ftw!)

Well, at least now bluesky2009 knows how to be in man's boots.

rejections are equal opportunity thing actually. nobody, male or female, gets accepted all the time. that's a statistical impossibility.