Singapore Expats

Hi there, I am a married female expat I just need to ask male expats out there for information about Tanjong Pagar girly bars.
Anyway, let me get to the point. What exactly do men do at those bars? Do the girls approach the costumers just to chat or the initial approach is already very intimate?
Sorry, I just need some help ...I found evidence of something and I need to make a decision and your insight could help me understand....
thanks a lot

The girls make their money by convincing patrons to buy them high priced drinks. Some of the ladies will flirt but not much more. Others, especially late in the evening, are willing to play feely games to keep their customers 'engaged'.

Some are also willing to go to a hotel, but usually after closing time, and it is different than in Bangkok, say, where you can pay a bar fine and take the lady at any time. These ladies are employed to sell drinks, and are generally expected to stay until closing time.

It also depends to some degree on the establishment where they are working. Some don't put up with much hanky panky, others just look the other way. There has been a crackdown lately, and many of the more 'liberal' establishments are out of business.

I'm itching to find out what she discovered evidence of

If you found out that hubby/bf went for a few after work drinks with friends to one of these places I wouldn't worry too much, most are quite tame and just want them to buy a few drinks nothing more

If he went to Geylang on the other hand...

I went to Geylang and bough my backup, 2nd hand laptop over there. Does it count?

My company here had me live there (Geylang area) for ten days. Also I had some yummy beef kway teow there several months after that

Also, Tanjong Pagar has a store that sells some nice sizzling sisig. Goes well with beer.

JayCee wrote:I'm itching to find out what she discovered evidence of

If you found out that hubby/bf went for a few after work drinks with friends to one of these places I wouldn't worry too much, most are quite tame and just want them to buy a few drinks nothing more

If he went to Geylang on the other hand...

It's the four floors you have to watch out for... although Naughty Girl is mostly an eye candy place.

Strong Eagle wrote:

JayCee wrote:I'm itching to find out what she discovered evidence of

If you found out that hubby/bf went for a few after work drinks with friends to one of these places I wouldn't worry too much, most are quite tame and just want them to buy a few drinks nothing more

If he went to Geylang on the other hand...

It's the four floors you have to watch out for... although Naughty Girl is mostly an eye candy place.

I am amazed by SE's wealth of knowledge regarding these things.

nakatago wrote:

Strong Eagle wrote:

JayCee wrote:I'm itching to find out what she discovered evidence of

If you found out that hubby/bf went for a few after work drinks with friends to one of these places I wouldn't worry too much, most are quite tame and just want them to buy a few drinks nothing more

If he went to Geylang on the other hand...

It's the four floors you have to watch out for... although Naughty Girl is mostly an eye candy place.

I am amazed by SE's wealth of knowledge regarding these things.

ONLY because I have taken many clients and friends out on the town!

Strong Eagle wrote:ONLY because I have taken many clients and friends out on the town!

Ok, if you say so. At least OP can have confidence in the veracity of your advice.

Thanks for the info. Yes, I found evidence that my husband went to two of those bars after a happy hour. This is causing a lot of suffering...sorry, I am not always a very gloomy person but the news of my husband going to those bars has shaken me my core.
If possible, do you have any specific information about Duxton@25?
Thanks again!

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some people go for christmas party there

brisa wrote:Thanks for the info. Yes, I found evidence that my husband went to two of those bars after a happy hour. This is causing a lot of suffering...sorry, I am not always a very gloomy person but the news of my husband going to those bars has shaken me my core.
If possible, do you have any specific information about Duxton@25?
Thanks again!

Brisa, it's like this. In Singapore, if one wants to get into 'trouble' it is possible to do it virtually anywhere. Massage parlors with happy endings abound in every part of the city. Karaoke joints loaded with ladies to help you 'sing'. Lots of amateur girls from Vietnam, Thailand, China who don't see a thing wrong with making a few bucks and enjoying it.

That he went to one of these bars means nothing, other than being surrounded by lovelies who all say, in broken English, "Oh, you so hansum," in the hopes of getting the sap to buy another $30 watered down vodka tonic. And if someone is actually crazy enough to buy a $30 drink, there will then be six or eight ladies crowded around, all wanting a drink. Now the main problem becomes being loaded with perfume and lipstick smears on your clothing as they all clamor for a drink.

Not to say that you can't get into trouble if you really want to... just that if it is sex that one is after, there are easier, cheaper, and more discrete ways than hanging around in a bar at Tanjong Pagar. If you ask me, it's about the same difference as going to a strip joint in the US. Eye candy.

Don't take my word for it... go see for yourself. Women and couples frequent the bars as well.

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sorry guys, although I know that guys will always be guys I am a bit old fashion when it comes down to marital vows. I believe that 'something' made him decide to go to those places. I am trying to understand what that 'something' is...he is a very intelligent and good looking man. He is married to an intelligent and good looking woman (not a fat, frustrated housewife – but that’s should not be a excuse too). Anyway, we both work and we have a beautiful young family...what is that the 'something'? Lust? I don't want a partner that can be THAT shallow.

Why don't you ask him? Exercise tact, prudence and diplomacy, of course.