Should i Divorce Pls read and give me advice
Posted: Mon, 31 Oct 2011 11:02 pm
i know my wife at 2007.i married my wife at 2009. im 33 and shes 31and a thai.Before we married theres times i cant get her and shes working part time and sudying. I feel in love with her and told to stop working and i supported her for the last few semester so that she can concentrate on her studies, getting a degree will help me get a PR for her in Singapore.
We married after she get her cert.She left me 4 month after our marriage initially was a visit her family and in the end up its was a work interview in thailand and she work for one year . During this time she dont let me go over to see her saying she work night shift at airport and 4 off days a month. She is trying to save some money back home so i dont have to worry too much for the expencess in thailand when she is back in Singapore.She only came back and stay here for less then 1 month during the year and a half year.
When she came back i found out tru face book that she have been with a guy all the years she left me alone here. I see photos of them going to pattya for holiday kissing hugging and bed photos.They celebrate Valentine days together and she even brought him to the familly and relative to celebrate 2010 new years day. I was very depress and puzzled why she came back if shes so happy there during that time. We didnt talk for a week untill she wrote me two letters that she is sorry and ask me to forgive her. She would go back if i cant forgive her.
We talk it out and she told me she was with the guy before she know me. They broke off and i get to know her after thats why she came to singapore to married me and the guy is the past. So i forgave her.
My wife left me again telling me her mum is going for a eye operaton . Her mum fell down after one week of the operation and she told me she need to stay longer. I have trouble contacting her and she could only call me once a day or off her phone. She send me this message
( Although after reading this, it may hurt you, but i think i need to tell you all which kept in my heart for some period. i have been thinking for a very long time, i decided to stay in Thailand to look after my mom and i cant be with you anymore. Thats not the life i want and my family and friends are all here. Therefore i cant leave here. Hope you can understand my situiation and i really feel thankful for everything you gave me in life. Please forgive me and forget me. Take good care of yourself.)
After Reading this i was puzzled cos she was happy here and she even keep some cloths that she wore to sleep in a plastic bag, telling me she will be back in a week and dont want my mum to wash for her. We plan to go for PR interview and many other stuff. I manage to talk to her and ask her to come back, i ask her to give me more time to make everything right for her this time round i will make her feel better and not to worry about the medical cost at thailand. I felt she might want to work again to top up on the medical bills. In the end she told me that she is going to stay at her uncle house as there will have no flood and its more convinent for her mum. Cos her house need to climb stairs to the bed room. The uncle house have no connection and she would try to call me everyday by driving out to her home. And she promise she will be back after her mum got for another eye operation on nov 8. I work overtimes trying to save the 5k plus for the medical bills. which she told me that she dont need cos she have it. But i just wanted to give to her cos im her husband i feel thats the least i can do for her. I also went for thai lesson just so i could talk to her and her family better. I plan to go english course with her so she dont feel bored and bring her to thai embassy to have more intraction with thai people so she can make friends here.
During the few days on the phone, I sence that things is not right so i log in to the secret facebook i created to spy on that guy. I found photos that they are together again, this time she travel to malaysia to find him as his working there.
Im so depress now i feel so stupid to believe her stories , can anyone advice me on what should i do? im Really lost. i feel like the third party and why she marry me at the first place. I still love her but i really dont know how to share my wife with other guy. Should i let her go even though i feel really hurt and lost now.
I worried a lawyer will cost me a fortune cos im not a high earner. I need to wait till she come back one day which i dont know when. I really need some advice. i Feel ashame to talk to anyone even my family members how do i let my mum knows about this, she will be very hurt.
Sorry for my bad english im not good at writing
We married after she get her cert.She left me 4 month after our marriage initially was a visit her family and in the end up its was a work interview in thailand and she work for one year . During this time she dont let me go over to see her saying she work night shift at airport and 4 off days a month. She is trying to save some money back home so i dont have to worry too much for the expencess in thailand when she is back in Singapore.She only came back and stay here for less then 1 month during the year and a half year.
When she came back i found out tru face book that she have been with a guy all the years she left me alone here. I see photos of them going to pattya for holiday kissing hugging and bed photos.They celebrate Valentine days together and she even brought him to the familly and relative to celebrate 2010 new years day. I was very depress and puzzled why she came back if shes so happy there during that time. We didnt talk for a week untill she wrote me two letters that she is sorry and ask me to forgive her. She would go back if i cant forgive her.
We talk it out and she told me she was with the guy before she know me. They broke off and i get to know her after thats why she came to singapore to married me and the guy is the past. So i forgave her.
My wife left me again telling me her mum is going for a eye operaton . Her mum fell down after one week of the operation and she told me she need to stay longer. I have trouble contacting her and she could only call me once a day or off her phone. She send me this message
( Although after reading this, it may hurt you, but i think i need to tell you all which kept in my heart for some period. i have been thinking for a very long time, i decided to stay in Thailand to look after my mom and i cant be with you anymore. Thats not the life i want and my family and friends are all here. Therefore i cant leave here. Hope you can understand my situiation and i really feel thankful for everything you gave me in life. Please forgive me and forget me. Take good care of yourself.)
After Reading this i was puzzled cos she was happy here and she even keep some cloths that she wore to sleep in a plastic bag, telling me she will be back in a week and dont want my mum to wash for her. We plan to go for PR interview and many other stuff. I manage to talk to her and ask her to come back, i ask her to give me more time to make everything right for her this time round i will make her feel better and not to worry about the medical cost at thailand. I felt she might want to work again to top up on the medical bills. In the end she told me that she is going to stay at her uncle house as there will have no flood and its more convinent for her mum. Cos her house need to climb stairs to the bed room. The uncle house have no connection and she would try to call me everyday by driving out to her home. And she promise she will be back after her mum got for another eye operation on nov 8. I work overtimes trying to save the 5k plus for the medical bills. which she told me that she dont need cos she have it. But i just wanted to give to her cos im her husband i feel thats the least i can do for her. I also went for thai lesson just so i could talk to her and her family better. I plan to go english course with her so she dont feel bored and bring her to thai embassy to have more intraction with thai people so she can make friends here.
During the few days on the phone, I sence that things is not right so i log in to the secret facebook i created to spy on that guy. I found photos that they are together again, this time she travel to malaysia to find him as his working there.
Im so depress now i feel so stupid to believe her stories , can anyone advice me on what should i do? im Really lost. i feel like the third party and why she marry me at the first place. I still love her but i really dont know how to share my wife with other guy. Should i let her go even though i feel really hurt and lost now.
I worried a lawyer will cost me a fortune cos im not a high earner. I need to wait till she come back one day which i dont know when. I really need some advice. i Feel ashame to talk to anyone even my family members how do i let my mum knows about this, she will be very hurt.
Sorry for my bad english im not good at writing