Spare the rod, spoil the child

[samantha]

To all the parents out there. Do you honestly think that beating or humiliating your child in public is a good way to discipline him/her?

I couldn't help but ask myself this after i saw a mother slapping her son repeatedly in order to stop him from crying on the bus last week. I absolutely dislike this forms of punishment, but i seem to see this everywhere i go in singapore. The main issue is: does it really work?

[Global Citizen]

To all the parents out there. Do you honestly think that beating or humiliating your child in public is a good way to discipline him/her?

Nope, I think it's a terrible thing to do. Mind you I'm not against mild spanking but only if all else fails and it would have to be carried out at home and only as a last resort against a child if reasoning fails. Personally I had problems even with carrying out spanking when my son was younger as I would be filled with remorse and guilt after the fact and it felt like I was imposing the punishment on myself really!

[k1w1]

i saw a mother slapping her son repeatedly in order to stop him from crying

This always baffles me. When, when, when have you ever seen a kid STOP crying after getting a smack?

[samantha]

Well.. Thats the ironic part right?

[ironlady]

Nowadays kids are so different from the old times. I have a 3 year old, and another 1 year old. My 3 year old, is very stubborn especially when his daddy is around.Whenever I take him out ,he loves to run to escalators or nowadays, he likes to touch people just out of the blue. I have tried telling him nicely, but I dont shout at him outside in public as I wldnt him to feel embarrased or lower his self esteem.

A slap should be sufficient if things really get out of hand.

[elizabeth]

I feel that slaping your kids in the public is not right. Dispcipline should be done at home.

I just don'y understand some parents, why do they bear to slap their own children? It hurt their pride. And it not going to help at all. Dont they feel a shame of themselve by slapping and shouting in the public.

[Loops]

If you are going to slap your child for something they have just done, there is no point in waiting until you get home because they will have forgotten all about it. But if they are being a pain in the neck when you are out, a simple "do you want to go home" should do, especially if it is a treat day out.

But still, slaping a kid repeatedly (like the woman on the bus) is weird. I wonder how old the kid was. If mine are being noisy or annoying on the bus or in a cab I tell them we'll get out and walk........or worse, we'll stay in and they will get out and walk on their own! It always works.

[joop]

To all the parents out there. Do you honestly think that beating or humiliating your child in public is a good way to discipline him/her?

I couldn't help but ask myself this after i saw a mother slapping her son repeatedly in order to stop him from crying on the bus last week. I absolutely dislike this forms of punishment, but i seem to see this everywhere i go in singapore. The main issue is: does it really work?

I do not think so.. watch Supper Nanny. No beating or hitting, rather, methods of discipline that will teach the child what's right and wrong. Like, pulling the child to a corner to tell him/her what they've done is wrong and they should apologise.. Neither does the nanny shout at the child which only makes the child more rebellious. I think in Singapore some parents just scream, shout and run after their child, hit them in public and the child just whines non stop...